Friendship ..A Jewel you can make by your own hands..

I know i know, everybody knows the importance of friendship. It's a relationship close to your heart where nobody competes or judges each other . But is it entirely true ? I have seen friends judging and competing with each other. How to know if it is a true friendship ? Let me tell you my experience.

     In the course of my life, I lived in different cities . In the beginning it was very hard for me, you know being far away from family and getting adjusted to the new environment . It took me some time to understand that every city has it's own culture , food habits and lifestyle . I started very slowly but with each move , i adjusted faster . I learnt a lot of things but the key thing I learnt was how to make friends . No no don't get me wrong , i always had my childhood friends but we moved to different places and our links became little weaker. So i started making friends wherever i moved. We were from different cultures, ethnicity and backgrounds but our core was same. I became more broad minded and i learnt a lot from them and hopefully contributed something to their lives too . I felt a lot of pain when we separated but then i moved ahead and made some more friends. These were  not drinking or dinning buddies , they are my friends for good and bad, sunshine or hay. I cherish every memory with them and thank them for the learning's.

    Listen to me my friends if you want road of your life to be happy... make friends. Not to party or go out . Make friends so that you can learn and make your life a beautiful garden full of pretty flowers of different colors.I believe friendship is a jewel we can develop by our own hands and it never loses it's value . Key is to make right kind of friends who love your heart. It takes some hard work and commitment and even errors but trust me it's worth it. This is the beauty of life.. Live and let live !!!

A glimpse at life..

I was sitting in a small frozen yogurt cafe, enjoying my yogurt and waiting for my husband . It was a busy place right in the heart of the city . I saw people coming and going . People with different ethnicity and cultures. Everybody was looking different , different personalities, different clothing but still in a way they were all the same - wanting to reach their destinations . Then I noticed one couple sitting near me . They were old around 75 years. They were holding hands and talking as well as enjoying their yogurt. Their eyes were filled up with love. Looking at them made my heart melt . It is amazing to see people so much in love after decades of ups and downs, good and bad , love and hate. In my opinion this is the true love . It is very easy to get physically attracted to somebody . But loving somebody through the hardships and disappointments  of life is the real key. I know it is very hard but it is the key to  happy life.

LIVE LIFE ONE DAY AT A TIME...

I am a perfectionist. Sometimes I wonder is it a good thing or bad.It is very hard to satisfy me . I am very hard on myself. Recently I was going over my life, all I could see was the mistakes I have made . My achievements were not significant for me. It made me very depressed . I lacked interest in everything. Then one day I dragged myself out of the bed and went for a morning walk. The Sun was rising , birds were chirping. Leaves were changing colors and  giving message of the begining of the beautiful fall. Gentle breeze was blowing . Everything was very beautiful. I realized how many good things I have in my life .Nobody's life is perfect. There are good moments and bad moments. That is what makes our lives so interesting. As they say if you don't know the taste of bitter you can't probably know what sweet is for you. So buckle up and get yourself ready. Its best to live your life as it comes. I have made my life's principle " To live one day at a time and learn from my mistakes and move on ".

Travel and Life !!!!

Recently I have travelled to other part of the world. People say that travelling always give you life experiences.It is true in my case.I dealt with very hard circumstances and enjoyed some pleasant ones too. I met different people who had different opinions about me although I am the same person. I can say that i was always correct but it wouldn't be truly honest. I did some really good things and at times I did some mistakes too . I went to several places and met people with various attitudes in this trip and learnt from every body and even from my mistakes . I learnt a hard way how to live life one day at a time..

Now I have a very strong belief in Sir ROGER L'ESTRANGE's saying:

"LIVE AND LET LIVE is the rule of common justice ."

The gist of my post is that its very important to be a good human being.We all are different , instead of hurting each other and stepping on each others foot. We should help as many people as we can ..without expecting what we can get in return. I know its very hard to do thing . Believe me it is hard for me too and i am still in the process of learning to do it. So lets all take a oath that we will be a good human- being , not a good Christian ,Muslim , Hindu or any religion...... but a good human- being. Lets take the oath of humanity....Let's Live and Let People Live !!!!!

Answer To Some Questions....

In my last title I gave you some questions to think about. This time I have some answers. I feel like we all get unhappy not because of others. We make ourselves unhappy. I do not want to say that there are no difficult circumstances in our lives. But we can over come them.. We are human - beings. We are known as God's child because we have the power to make our life as we want. We can create, maintain and destroy. It is in our own hands. No body's life is without problems...Some people learn from it and some just let the problems take charge of themselves..I have been through both the faces ,there were times when I gave up but some of the times i stood up and moved further. It did hurt in the beginning but i learnt a lot from it . Then i decided it was worth the pain.

I know we cannot change life or the situations. But we can make it better by taking some small steps at a time.So, the question is how do we do it ??? I have couple of suggestions:-

1. Take a deep breath and say every morning "I can do it ".

2.Close your eyes and think what mistakes have you done.(Be honest- Nobody is judging you )

3.Correct your mistakes if you can or ask forgiveness ..( It takes a brave heart to say sorry )

4.Move ahead ..( Do not stay and get stuck in that pain full time)

5.Make a new routine , try to pick up one new activity which makes you happy.

These are some beginning steps. I am not trying to preach you neither I am saying that I can face it better than you, but trust me I have done this in my life and there was happiness in the end.As it is said:-

"Life! we have been long together,

Through pleasant and cloudy weather;

'Tis hard to part when friends are dear,

Perhaps 't will cost a sigh, a tear;

Then steal away give a little warning,

Choose thine own time;

Say not "Good night",but in some brighter clime

Bid me "Good morning."

-ANNA L.BARBAULD

I hope this will help.... Keep Smiling!!!!!

What's love ?

We all have heard about it somewhere. I was always asked by someone the same question again and again . Mostly in a sarcastic way . I personally never thought about it till now. Seriously who thinks about it , we just live it . There are some persons we like and others we dislike. Where does love come in then ?and if it comes around do we really live it ? or we make choices....

Good question isn't it ? If I ask you , most of you will say that you never thought about it . As per us love is a warmth of heart , joyful feeling , smile in our life. Many people have written about it . Karen Sunde said,"Love is to receive a glimpse of heaven ."

Is it so ? Then why do we stop feeling it after a certain while ? Does our heart stops beating ? I don't understand where does all of those feelings disappear?We suddenly start feeling that the person we are living with is the worst . He or she doesn't deserve us . We look around and find every other person's partners better than ours. It becomes our strong belief that everything bad in our life happened because of our partner.And of course the bottom line is we deserve a better person..

I have one simple question for you -" Are we perfect ?" think over it and I will talk to you about this later.

I am there to listen to you.....

I always wanted a way to express my feelings.First I tried talking to my friends but they always do not have patience for my problems ,they have their own.Then i tried writing on my diary , on different pages and tear them later but nothing works. It does not feel right. It does not give me the satisfaction of telling your story to somebody. I prefer somebody responding back at my actions. I think this one thing we lack in our relationships now a days. Nobody hears you . I would like some body to listen to me and I am there to listen to them .

LONGFELLOW said " Into each life some rain must fall, some days must be dark and dreary."

But how do we get out of this situation ? What will help ? nobody answers you....

I think i know what you want ... You want somebody to talk with. There are days when I am on top of the world but some days i just want somebody to hold me in their arms and tell me everything will be alright. This is not the day when world will end. There is always a new day coming . After the darkest night comes the most beautiful morning....So try talking to somebody. if nobody listens , try to write it down .Never loose faith . Somebody is out there, who can hold your hand and make you feel better.